There is a saying in tagalog, ,“Ang bungang hinog ay binabato.” (A stone is thrown to a ripe fruit). Then you have the crab mentality which Filipinos are known for: When someone is rising, the tendency is to pull others down. Why this reality? Because hatred and jealousy are two very damaging emotions. Even Jesus was not exempted from these two. The Pharisees were perpetually watching his every move, listening to his every word, finding fault or mistake.
No matter how nice we are, no matter the desire to do the right thing, there will always be haters. Also, as Christ said, expect haters when you follow Christ. What is the most Christian way of dealing with haters and jealousy?
- Pray for them. They may have reasons for hating you. Typically, they see in you what they do not want in themselves. But instead of revenge or becoming offensive, as Christ said, “Pray for those who persecute you.”
- Kindness. No one ever regretted being kind. Even when you encounter people who hate you, treat them with kindness. When one is cursing, return it with kindness; when one presses you for one mile, go an extra mile. At least, be civil to them. In fact, even people who hate you will be puzzled if they are treated with kindness.
- Stand on the Side of the Truth. The Church is the most persecuted institution nowadays. Why? It continues to speak the inconvenient truth. We have lost our moral compass and when we speak the truth, we are hated and persecuted.
In closing, are the beautiful words of St. Paul:
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low positions. Do not be conceited. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head” (Romans 12:16-20)